Becoming a new mom was, for me, a beautiful experience, one that I wouldn’t trade for anything in the world. Being a mom is a continuing blessing for me.
This doesn’t mean that raising young children will always be easy—because it won’t. In fact, after having our first baby, I struggled to find a sense of identity, uncertain about what my purpose really was during that time of my life—and, not that long ago, I needed to think about my focus in life, once again. So, I decided to share what has helped me, in hopes that it might help you, too.
But, first. Here’s a little bit of background about my life.
I was born in Birmingham Alabama, but from the age of three I’ve been raised in Nashville, Tennessee. While my parents fed me Biblical truths, my grandmother, who owned a restaurant for most of her life, fed me delicious old-fashioned Southern meals and instilled in me the love of cooking.
This city truly was home to me, a place where our family had deep, satisfying roots. But, by the time I was a new mom, we were living in Los Angeles—you know, the city of bright lights and big dreams where it seems like everyone is either an actor or trying to become one—or on a quest to become the next BIG executive.
When people in LA would ask me what I did in life, it seemed as though I always held my breath for a moment too long before quietly saying, “I’m just a stay at home mom.”
I remember feeling embarrassed by the question and my answer, as though I was being judged for not achieving anything—in spite of being the wife of a loving man, Jason, and the mother of a wonderful baby girl named Ella. I truly was struggling with my identify.
Plus, I was just plain overwhelmed. After longing to become a mom, the sleepless nights after the baby arrived could be quite exhausting and it was hard to see what was next for me in life. I was just trying to get through the current moment in time!
If you’re a new mother, you may be experiencing this, or something similar. Or maybe you know someone else who is. And, the reality is that you’ll never go back to what used to be considered your “normal” life. Instead, it’s about creating your new normal.
Fortunately, there are ways to make this transition easier. To help, I’ll share more about my own experiences—along with what Bible quotes reassured and sustained me. It’s my hope and prayer that they also help you on your own unique journey!
Moving to Los Angeles
Living in LA was, without a doubt, a new and different lifestyle. We’d moved there from a place where there were plenty of activities specifically designed for young moms and their children, such as MOPS and Mommy and Me classes. Plus, where we used to live, I could plan play dates with other stay at home moms where babies and toddlers played and moms could connect with one another and share what was going on in their lives.
In Los Angeles, though, I tried every Mommy and Me class I could find. I also took Ella for walks in the park, attended church, and did all I could think of to find someone else to connect with.
Finally, after six long months of feeling like I was living on an island in one of the largest cities in the world, and struggling with what many would call depression, I made a friend. Thankfully, she invited me to outings with her other friends—and through that one connection, I made other friends, as well, and began to feel as though I had a sense of community.
Challenges of Being a Stay At Home Mom
Making friends was a big difference maker, but I was still struggling with my identity and questioning what I was actually doing with my life. Here I was, with a college degree and marketing and sales experience, and I was staying at home every day with a one year old.
Some people would say that being a stay at home mom sounded like a dream come true but, while I loved being with my daughter, I still wanted to find my purpose in life, to discover how I was going to personally make a difference. To try to figure that out, I attended a weekend-long Tony Robbins conference where one of the questions asked was, “What are your goals?”
I started crying. Why? Because I had no idea!
Was it to keep the house clean? To have dinner on the table at 6:00 p.m. sharp? To lose my baby weight? The truth was, I had absolutely no idea what my goals were, anymore—and, without goals, how on earth could I have a purpose?
Again, I just wasn’t sure.
I knew that I needed to care for my baby and to keep her alive, but I felt like anyone could do that. And, after the conference, I began to question myself even more. What was I really doing with my life?
At that point, I needed to take some deep breaths and focus on the takeaways from the conference. Many of them had briefly empowered and energized me.
But it just wasn’t enough.
During a Quiet Moment
About a week after the conference, I had some quiet time, so I read over questions that Tony Robbins had provided. I found myself re-reading the questions that were about goals—and then I sat. Quietly.
And, in that stillness, I heard God’s voice telling me that my purpose, right now, was to raise a daughter of the King. He had blessed me with a daughter, He reminded me, and she needed—every single day—to be loved and cared for, adored.
So, by fulfilling that purpose each and every day, I was serving God. Individual actions—whether it was feeding Ella or giving her a bath or holding her when she needed comfort—might seem small. But, in combination, this service would have a major impact.
As moms, it’s easy to lose focus as you get in a routine. It’s easy to feel as though what you’re doing doesn’t really matter. It’s easy to feel like you’ve lost yourself.
If you’re feeling that way, this is when it’s especially important to remember that you’re answering a huge call by making a difference in little lives in a way that will someday be world changing.
It can also help to rely upon the wisdom of more experienced moms, the ones who have already been there and done that. There were plenty of them who were telling me that, while “the days are long, the years are short.” As I heard that over and over, I have to admit that I sometimes felt like I was going to lose my patience. Ultimately, though, I also knew they were right.
Plus, re-reading the Bible verses that encouraged me was a real lifeline. I’ll share some of my favorites, along with how they help me.
Bible Verses for New Moms
. . . since you know that you will receive an inheritance from the Lord as a reward. It is the Lord Christ you are serving. (Colossians 3:24)
I love this verse—and think it’s a great one for moms with young children—because it’s a wonderful reminder that, even in daily tasks that can feel boring and tiring, we can serve God by doing what He has called us to do.
And don’t allow yourselves to be weary or disheartened in planting good seeds, for the season of reaping the wonderful harvest you’ve planted is coming! (Galatians 6:9)
As moms, we are planting the seeds and building a foundation for our children, with the hopes that they will grow to do great things.
Children are God’s love-gift; they are heaven’s generous reward. (Psalms 127:3)
Sometimes, in the chaos, with the kids arguing and making demands (yes, we now have KIDS, not just one child!), I have to take a step back. I need to remind myself that, even though our kids may drive me crazy, I have been entrusted with an incredible gift.
Commit your way to the Lord; trust in him and he will do this. (Psalms 37:5)
Even in the hard times, when things just don’t seem to make sense, I know that I must keep trusting in Him. By trusting His plan, He will give me the strength I need.
Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old, they will not turn from it. (Proverbs 22:6)
This is another great verse about remembering and focusing on what truly matters. These early years may seem like they’ll last forever, but they won’t—just like the experienced moms had tried to tell me. This is the time of life when you can pour love and faith into their foundations, to help children become who it is they’ll be one day.
Let us then approach God’s throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need. (Hebrews 4:16)
When I’m feeling run down and can’t find the energy to take care of one more need, I love to cling to this verse because it reminds me that, when I can’t, He can.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. (Psalms 139:14)
I think it’s so easy to speak this verse over our kids or to believe it for other people, but it’s harder to believe it for ourselves. It can help, though, if we step back and think about how God gives us everything we need, including the tools to be a great mom and care for our littles.
When you pass through the waters, I will be with you; and when you pass through the rivers, they will not sweep over you. When you walk through the fire, you will not be burned; the flames will not set you ablaze. (Isaiah 43:2)
Some days can feel like they are never ending and, when they arrive, you may feel as though there just isn’t a way to keep going. This verse, though, reminds me that Jesus is walking right beside me.
There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens. (Ecclesiastes 3:1)
Some days, you’ll have to remind yourself that, yes. This is just a season! Whether it’s a really tough year, or month—or even day or moment in time, if it’s especially challenging, it may seem like it’s never ending. Soaking in this verse can make those really tough times easier.
So, these are the Bible verses for new moms that I recommend—but I also suggest that you find the ones that speak uniquely to you!
If you find a verse that’s meaningful for you, but doesn’t appear on my list, please contact me and share it. I love to hear stories of how God is encouraging other mothers.
Now, do you remember that, when I was strolling around the parks of Los Angeles, our daughter was only one year old? Well, she’s almost ten now, and she now has an active seven-year-old brother, Beckett.
In many ways, my life is quite different from what it was nearly a decade ago. For one thing, I have two children, not one, and neither are toddlers anymore. For another, we live in Nashville now, not Los Angeles. (You can find more about what we’re up to as a family, here!)
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